What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder and what are the red flags to spot it ?

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder with a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.

It’s not unusual for a narcissist to do something hurtful resulting in someone reacting quite strongly. The reaction then upsets the narcissist and they go on telling others a dishonest reenactment of the story in order to pass on guilt and gain attention. They make trouble for others like this and have absolutely no empathy for the true victim. They will have no trouble making up lies and pinning it onto someone they dislike in order for that person to be attacked by others.

They lack of empathy they feel is completely unnatural and they can cause a lot of harm to people in their life such as children, Co workers and strangers. Once they are caught out lying or getting something wrong such as claiming somebody stole another’s wallet they will never apologise. They can’t put themselves into another persons shoes, they don’t have emotional maturity to know when it’s the correct time to admit they got something wrong.

They also hate being wrong, such as in conversations or arguments. They can also be very adept at lying, making exposing them that much more difficult to do. Narsissists have no issue exploiting people for thier own wants and needs due to the lack of empathy they feel. They will never be able to have a fulfilling relationship as people will soon figure them out.

Argueing with someone with Narsissistic Personality Disorder is a waste of time, they will fly into a rage or even become violent when challenged. Normal healthy individuals can have healthy debates and arguments and then drawback conclusion and move on. Narsissists cannot do this.

Narsissists project a false life to others, in conversations or over socail media. They have to be admired and always boost up thier achievements, if someone else has a better achievement than them they will belittle that person or try thier best to take thier achievement away. They dominate conversations and it is mostly always stories about them self’s and thier childhoods. For example a friend may have recently lost her pet cat and could be upset and confide in them in order to feel better and they will totally not understand the situation due to lack of empathy. They will go on to talk about how they had a pet care once or anything about themselves.

They are often not very good friends to others due to being selfish and not knowing what a healthy give and take friendship is, a narsissist will only take from you and the odd time give. The friendship or relationship is all about them 24/7.

Red flags that point to narcissistic personality disorder to watch out for ! 

Very good at lying to you, will even lie when caught out on thier lies.

Will start an argument and they end up the victim.

Doesn’t like hearing about your goals or achievements.

Doesn’t congratulate you on things you achieve.

Goes into a rage over the slightest “perceived” criticism. Often takes normal feedback as criticism if it’s negative.

They need to always be in control, due to secretly being very insecure inside.